Keep in mind I’m seeing this through a spiritual collide scope when sharing. I love human behavior—the way energy moves, sticks, and shifts. My degree’s in sociology, but my real lessons come from readings, energy work, and experience.
Anger and anxiety don’t just disappear after they’re expressed. They’re tacky gooey, restless energies—emotional poison looking for a place to settle. And when people don’t know how to rid or transmute them, they vomit that energy outward. It spills into their words, their actions, seeps outta the aura in the way they move through the world.
Energy doesn’t care about “why,” only “where.”
This isn’t about blame—[husband’s name here] 😂—it’s about recognizing how it operates. Hurt people hurt people—facts. Anxious people spread anxiety—side note: it can translate as restlessness or a vibe that makes others feel lonely, like they’re all alone. Angry people ignite anger in others because energy craves company. It wants a home, and if you aren’t conscious, it will try to live in you. We’re just passing it around like a hot potato.
Many indigenous traditions view emotions as literal entities that can be “fed” or “starved.”
And remember—you don’t have to host it.
side note: totally off topic—what does the , “emotions as… entities” statement… say about water signs *tea cup here lol
How It Hits You (Even When You Don’t Feel It)
You may not feel the anger directly, but you’ll react—maybe with frustration, defensiveness, or sudden exhaustion. That’s your energy field responding to the invasion. Stay in neutral—no emotions, no facial expression, just observe. Stay grounded. Stay centered. Shield. And whatever you do, don’t try to fix their issues for them (thoughts like, What’s up his/her a$s?). Try your best to focus on their anger Uzi (think leaky wound energy). Let them hold accountability—it’s the only way they’ll heal. And when I say hold, I mean let them process that funky energy themselves. Don’t grab it, don’t catch it, don’t try to clean up their mess (by not feeding into the why’s, how’s & confusion*). Their energy, their responsibility to flush it out.
It doesn’t matter spiritually where the energy comes from—a stranger, a loved one, or even your own past. What matters is not letting it spread.
In a weird way (ego), they’re doing us a favor by letting us know they have a spiritual virus. When someone spews their funk, it’s a warning: mask up. Protect your energy. And if you didn’t respond the way you wanted—if their outburst left you stunned, triggered, or slipping into old karmic wounds—be good with yourself. It happens. Anger, especially when it borders on hate, hits like a shockwave. It freezes your thoughts, makes it hard to reset boundaries right away. That’s normal. That energy is harsh. It beep’n comes off as hate & resent energy.
The Quick Reset
The best thing to do—no debate, just action—do the triple cleanse:
- Root (ground)
- Draw up earth energy (cleanse)
- Center—all at once.
If needed, cut cords (blog up). Takes seconds, but it resets your field before their toxicity takes root.
Anxiety & Restlessness: Same Energy, Different Names
Anxiety and restlessness? Same energy, different definitions. Here’s the trick: keep a sliver of your attention on your breathing. This works two ways:
- Anxiety/restlessness is an attention whore 😂—not the person, but the energy needs to feed.
- Focusing on breath kills it—like salt on a slug, that energy shrivels fast when you starve it.
But isn’t anxiety chemical?” Sure, but energy work doesn’t deny science—it addresses the unseen layer. Like how wind (invisible) moves leaves (visible). Slapped leaves a mark (visible) Swing (invisible)😏 😂 kidding 🌴humor..
Most of us think we’re grounded in these types of interactions, but in my experience, this energy hits the healer’s spot—the area between the shoulder blades, below the neck. When this spot gets siphoned, it messes with:
- Nervous system (Ouch, tension)
- Throat chakra (teeth, tongue, sinuses, etc.)
- Heart chakra (blood pressure, lungs, etc.)
It breaks down the immune system, making you more prone to fatigue, illness, or that “I’m alone” feeling. The muscles in that area tighten up (under the head down to between the blades), and if it goes unchecked, energetic attachments can form (blog link here).
Different Views—Layers of Emotional Toxicity
Across traditions, unresolved emotions don’t just disappear—they fester, attach, or seek new hosts.
- Hinduism/Buddhism: Samskaras (mental impressions) and kleshas (mind poisons) create suffering cycles.
- Toltec wisdom: Calls this mitote—chaotic inner noise that infects others. This one’s creepy.
- African spiritual systems: “Hot” energies must be cooled or cleansed to protect the collective.
Shamans and energy workers see—when emotional poison sits unprocessed, it doesn’t just haunt them; it latches onto others like a parasite. Okay, maybe how I describe it is dramatic… lol but it’s truth. That’s why so many traditions emphasize cord-cutting, grounding, and energetic hygiene—not as “Oh no, watch out!” but as medicine.
Final Reminders
When toxicity comes your way, remember: this isn’t just emotional baggage—it’s a spiritual flu. And just like you wouldn’t drink poison because someone handed it to you, you don’t have to swallow their energy.
Stay neutral (or get there lol). Blank face, no reaction—vogue lol. The less you absorb, the clearer you become. Two reasons:
- You’re consciously activating a shield.
- Your mind’s focused elsewhere—takes the edge off.
Clarity, more than any ritual, is the ultimate protection.
Disclaimer
Every healer, reader, shaman, or delivery person 😉 is different. This is how I read energy in these spots—and it works! I’m not saying to react harshly to someone hurting or anxious. Just be aware spiritually, so you’re not triggered or drained. Sometimes the effects don’t show up until later. Your brain senses the energy, searches through its files, and blames the nearest hurt. Keep your energy clean.