We’ve all felt —that heavy exhaustion after a draaaaaining conversation, the unexplainable sadness that isn’t ours, or the nagging thoughts about someone long after they’re gone. These are signs of energetic cords—invisible threads that tether us to people, places, and past experiences.
The concept isn’t new. Every psychic, healer, shaman, or spiritually inclined bestie 😉might use different terms, but it’s the same energy. No single tradition “invented” it; cords appear across cultures:
- Tantric traditions speak of nadi (energy channels).
- Shamanic practices work with “filaments” connecting souls.
- Modern energy healers like Barbara Brennan describe them as psychic attachments.
Personally— I describe it like this: You’re camping in someone’s bubble (their energy_. 😆 ORRRR they’ve pitched a tent in yours.
Not All Cords Are Bad
Healthy ones—like a parent’s bond with their child—create mutual energy flow. Toxic cords, however, siphon your mana (your vital energy), leaving you depleted, emotionally scattered, or even physically unwell. In my opinion, they can “steal” your luck, your glow, and leave you filtering out their… crap.
That’s why I suggest disconnecting from loved ones at times—not to cut them off, but to avoid transferring your spiritual baggage. My approach isn’t about literal cords; it’s about preserving your energy and maintaining healthier energetic boundaries by seeing connections as shared “space” rather than fixed ties.
How to Know If a Cord Needs Cutting
- You feel drained after interacting with someone.
- You can’t stop thinking about them (positively or negatively)—borderline obsession.
- You mirror their emotions or physical pains—sudden anxiety, headaches, or random thoughts of them when they’re thinking of you.
- Your life feels stuck—meanwhile, their happy a$s has moved on.
(Side note: If you’re dealing with a long-term or intense connection, disconnecting can feel like grieving. Your aura is familiar with their energy, so it may take time to fully release.)
How to Cut Cords (Simple & Effective Steps)
1. Prepare Your Energy—for the beginner
- Ground yourself: Stand barefoot on grass or visualize roots from your feet sinking into the earth. (Even drinking water helps—whisper an intention into it first.)
- Shield up: Imagine a bubble of violet or golden light around you—or whatever color feels right.
2. Locate the Cord
Close your eyes and scan your body. Cords often attach to:
- Heart chakra (love, grief, familial bonds).
- Solar plexus (power struggles, ego clashes).
- Sacral chakra (sexual or creative ties).
- The belly button—my foolproof default.
3. Sever the Connection
Here’s how I teach it:
- Align body, mind, and spirit (takes seconds—just bring all into agreement).
- Tap your belly button 3 times with the intent (that’s the magick) of severing ties.
- Feel the disconnect—15-30 seconds of focus is enough.
(Side note: Some people prefer visualizing a blade of light, scissors, or calling on Archangel Michael. Do what resonates.)
4. Maintenance Is Key
After cutting, you might still think of them—that’s old energy trying to reattach. When it happens:
- Say, “Not mine. Get out.”
- Or simply acknowledge the energy and say, “No.”
(For beginners, you can also “seal” the space with golden light or use black obsidian/selenite for extra protection. Not needed but good practice & good energy.)
Pro Tip: For stubborn cords (like narcissistic or karmic ties), try mirror work—visualize reflecting their energy back not to retaliate, but to return what’s theirs.
The Bigger Picture
Cutting cords isn’t about shutting people out—it’s about honoring your energy so you can engage from wholeness, not depletion.
Final Tip: Cord-cutting can be enhanced during the waning moon (for release) or eclipses (for big shifts).
(Like herbs? Try cord-cutting oil: rosemary, frankincense, and cedarwood. Anoint where your intuition leads—or use whatever resonates with you. 😉)
Grounding & Centering: Your Energetic Anchor
Why It Matters
Being ungrounded is like being spiritually drunk—you’re wide open, making questionable decisions, and an easy target for psychic opala (trash).
When I first started doing readings, I loved the psychic high—testing crystals, energy sprays, the out-of-body rush. But without grounding, I was reckless. I didn’t realize how vulnerable it made me to attachments, negative energy, and even psychic attacks.
What Grounding Feels Like
- Solid. Present. Here. (Not spacey or floaty.)
- Centered = Clarity. Emotions don’t overtake you. Decisions come from a place of surety.
5 Quick Ways to Ground & Center— Pick one do all, it’s up to you.
- Breath Work
- Four-count inhale, hold, exhale. (Breath ties spirit to body—yoga, qi gong, and magick traditions all swear by it.)
- Root Visualization
- Imagine roots from your spine into the earth’s core. (Classic but powerful.)
- Body Work
- Stretch, shake out limbs, or stamp your feet (martial artists do this for a reason).
- Touch the Ground
- Bare feet on dirt, grass, or stone. (Water works too—rivers, ocean edges.)
- Anchor Objects
- Hold a rock, wear iron jewelry, or carry salt. (Hoodoo uses lodestones; Norse traditions use iron nails.)
A Shortcut:
Breathe. Press your tongue to the roof of your mouth. Name three things you smell. The fastest way back is always through the body.
Final Thought
Your energy is sacred. Guard it fiercely—whether by cutting cords, grounding, or simply saying “no” to what doesn’t serve you.
Stay deep. 🔥